Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazing thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!
Dale Carnegie in his mega-best-selling book “How to win friends and influence people” writes about the amazing power of asking good questions to show that we are interested in connecting with someone else.
Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!
If you are a guy and ask careful questions from a lady, you will often find yourself jumping to last-base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.
If you are a lady and want to stroke a guy’s ego and make him feel good then ask lots of interesting questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!
Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you are genuine, you will always win someone over quickly. They will feel your genuine interest and respond. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.
Here’s 21 questions to ask a guy or girl to get conversation moving. They have been written from a female perspective, however just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions – which are always better.
Here’s 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl to get you started
1. If you’re a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?
2. What was your favourite Halloween dress up costume as a child and why?
3. If you could choose to have dinner with five people – real of fictional – who would you invite and why?
4. If in an instant you could become an invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?
5. If someone were to make a comedy show about part of your life, which part would they script and what would be found in the script?
6. What was your fondest television character when you were a young child? What was it that you liked about them?
7. If there was something that you missed doing in this lifetime what was it?
8. What’s the most funniest experience you’ve had in your entire life?
9. Have you ever gone on a date with a person who is so way smaller or taller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?
10. How old were you when you had your first proper date and did you kiss them?
11. What’s the worst lie you’ve ever told in your life? Where you caught out?
12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?
13. If you do not like someone do you show it or pretend that you like them?
14. What is more important to you in a woman – good looks or intelligence?
Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!
15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so did you get caught?
16. What’s the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?
17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?
18. What turns you off the most sexually?
19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?
20. Has anyone ever caught you masturbating? If they did what did you do and who was it?
21. Have you ever had sex with more than one woman at a time?
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