When Being an Independent Woman Goes Wrong
I’m all about standing your ground for what you think is best for you. I’m all about making decisions for your life and not always yielding to what your partner thinks is best. But regardless of how kick-ass and self-efficient you are about your life, when you make the decision to be in a serious relationship or marriage with another person, there are certain decisions that now have an effect on their lives as well.
That compromise includes consulting your partner about decisions that will affect him or her. This in no way makes you weak or co-dependent. Discussing things with your partner before making a decision is just the smart thing to do.
Here are a few things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before going forward with:
Birth control
Whether it’s going on or off birth control, or getting your tubes tied, any moves that affect your ability to get pregnant should definitely be discussed with the other part of your partnership. It may be your body but if you’re having intimate relations they definitely have a vested interest.
Leftover food
Why anyone would want to eat three days old Chinese takeout is a mystery, but apparently some do. Guaranteed that the minute you throw it out, they’ll want it. The moral here; if it’s not yours ask the owner before throwing it in the garbage.
Buying big ticket items
Even the Rockefellers and the Hiltons know that it’s just a smart relationship move to discuss buying big ticket items like cars, boats or houses with your sweetie. Unless it’s an anniversary surprise, in which case no discussion is required!
Bringing home new family members
Okay, that little puppy you saw at the pet store when you went to buy fish food is cute what with that heart breaking little face and all. I know how tempting that can be. And that last time you were shooting that movie and your partner was looking after the other kids and you saw that orphan that just melted your heart? Also tempting. But resist you must. Adding to your family should only be done with your partner’s okay.
Getting a tattoo
With their name, anywhere on your body. This needs no further explanation, does it?
Deleting the Tivo recordings
Thinking that he or she watched the most recent episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and knowing it are two different things. Do this and you’re on the fast track to World War III.
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